We live in a country that is conservative, friends, family and society indirectly dictate how we date, and the kind of people we should be involved with. At some point in your life you will or have been approached by an older person for a relationship. Some are even bold enough to approach an older person. Before you jump-ship or discard the person look at the pros and cons below.
PRO: Stability
An older person has had more time to rise in the ranks of his career. He hopefully is no longer paying back student debt, which means that he doesn’t have to share a hovel with four roommates and split the bill for utilities. Bonus is he might own a car, or a home.
PRO: Mature
By the time a man is in his 40s, he’s probably had a few serious relationships, which means that he knows how to navigate emotions and is not foolish or idealistic about love. He knows that commitment is work. He also isn’t apt to play games, meaning that he won’t wait an arbitrarily prescribed about of time before returning your call.
PRO: Wise
There is no substitution for experience, and your old geezer has had many more years to accumulate and learn from them. He has probably already made all the mistakes you can make and can see problems coming from a mile away. He can help advise and guide you through whatever you might be traversing.
PRO: Ready To Settle Down
Older men know their next date might be one with the grim reaper. They have dated for decades, had more flings than a sling shot, and are looking for commitment in the form of a meaningful relationship. If they believe you’re the right one, they’ll tell you so and mobilize to win you over.
PRO: Sexually Experienced
The notches on his bedpost have whittled it down to a toothpick. The more partners or sex he’s had, the more opportunities he’s had to perfect his throw down. He knows what he wants in bed, isn’t afraid to ask for it, and also should damn well know by now how to please his partner.
CON: Controlling
A man who pays the bills feels they are owed something. He is entrenched in his life and you will be conforming to his way of living. If he’s used to storing cereal in those airtight Tupperware containers or sleeping naked, don’t expect him to stop just because you’ve arrived on the scene.
CON: Condescending
Some men may not have actually gained wisdom over their years, only a sense that they know it all. This leads to condescension and a fatherly patronization that is distinctly unsexy. A wise man is the man who knows he knows nothing.
CON: Less exciting
A man who is mature is, almost by nature, less exciting. He knows there’s more joy in a quiet evening with a great vintage Cabernet Franc than going out to the club (hopefully). If you crave that youthful exuberance, he probably won’t be the one to give it to you.
CON: Wrinkles
Time and gravity are unfortunate bedfellows. Unless he’s got a good dermatologist on call, likely he’s already started to wilt by the time you got to him. While a few wrinkles definitely add character and gravitas a man, there are other places on the body that sag which can’t be helped.
CON: Ready To Settle Down
Sometimes you get into a relationship with an older man, but you know in the back of your head there is an expiration date because you can’t escape the math that represents the ravine between you. Everything feels more serious and you might find yourself dealing with emotions and situations that you’re not prepared to handle.
