Most people listen too much to their intuitions even if the conditions under which they live are unbearable. They suffer at the hands of their lovers, but still these inner voices tell them to stay. They keep on hoping for the better in their relationships. The question is: why do people allow themselves to suffer in the name of love? Lovers are supposed to love, protect and support each other, so why should the other partner suffer? There are several questions that people should ask themselves when they are hurting but still having doubts on whether to leave or to continue with their relationships.
- Does he/she show interest in you?
- Do you think he/she loves you?
- What is your value – how much value can you place at yourself?
- Do you think the way he/she has been taking your love depicts your value?
In a relationship, lovers should love each other, they automatically turn into friends from the moment they start the relationship, they play together and spend time together just to mention a few. But when the other partner feels more important than the other in the relationship, everything in the relationship is centered on him, he imposes, he feels big and does not give the other the love that he owes them, is it fair? How are you supposed to love someone that you fear? You obviously can’t love someone who hurts you and most importantly, you can’t continue to be with that kind of person in a relationship.
Love is the sweetest thing on earth, it must be enjoyed not hated, and it should not bring about doubt in anybody’s heart. A situation whereby the other partner has to cry day in and day out, we no longer refer to that as love, it has now turned into emotional abuse. You are of high premium, you are not cheap and you must not allow anyone to devalue you such that you live in the defensive. You are not supposed to be tossed “to and fro”, to live in the confusion, to have a disjointed love relationship but you are supposed to have a happy family devoid of heart-aches.
You are purely responsible of what you get out of life, and all that you are going through as far as a relationship is concerned is a result of the choices you made in the past. It is your choice to accept that you are in that relationship alone; if not so you shouldn’t be hurting because love does not hurt, love is love and it brings about happiness and it relaxes the soul than to harm it. Don’t let your inner voices deceive you, nothing is going to change, instead you will be torn apart, you better pick up the pieces while there is still time, someone out there is waiting for you, someone who will respect you, love you, protect you, someone who knows the meaning of the word L-O-V-E. They say: “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure” so get out of the box because true love is waiting for you somewhere. You are the one who can change the direction of the ship of your life.
By;
Gofaone Nanie Peletang
