Date Yourself First!!

Nothing excites in the world like finding love as a young person. We want to be seen taking strolls in Tsholofelo park, updating statuses on social media about our love lives. But we tend to forget the first stage before dating someone else, Dating Your Self. Dating is supposed to be a means to an end. Or, maybe a better way of putting it, dating is a means to a beginning.

1. Dating yourself allows you to get in touch with what you really want in relationships. It allows you to connect with how you want to be loved, how you want to be touched, etc. This will help in finding a compatible person in future.
2. Dating yourself allows you to see how much you have and how much you are able to fulfill your own desires, without relying on someone else to do it for you. In essence, you realize your completeness. .
3. Dating yourself allows you to assert boundaries in your relationships in an easy and loving way. Sometimes it’s easier to say, “I need to go on a date with myself” than “I need to be left alone”.
4. Dating yourself allows you to spend time enjoying the sensual pleasure of your body, which is so healing in terms of body acceptance.
5. If you are looking for a relationship, dating yourself gives yourself a reminder of how it feels to be dating. And, as you may have found, people often get more attention from potential lovers when they’re already in a relationship.
6. By dating yourself, whether you’re in a relationship or not, you can constantly experience that level of self love, you’ll strengthen the most important relationship in your life: the one you have with yourself. .
7. Dating yourself reinforces the idea that love and happiness start within, teaching you to look within for the support, encouragement and love that you naturally crave.
8. Dating yourself increases your self-esteem and worthiness as you actively value and care for yourself. It shows you that you are deserving of great care and attention.
9. Dating yourself teaches you to enjoy alone time and how to be independent, furthering the health of your present and future relationships.
10.  Dating yourself takes away the stress of being in a relationship. everything is about you.