Men all over the world have over decades been dubbed as liars, and can get away with pretending where relationships are concerned. On the other hand women have been blessed with the gift of gut feeling, at times you can tell if he is into you or not. Sometimes though its not easy, as men are snakes. Having trouble reading the person you’re interested in most or the one you’re with? Here are 10 ways to tell if he’s really busy or just too busy for you.
1. Time.
If he returns your calls and text messages days after you reach out and ignores the fact that he’s been distant, something’s up. A person interested in you wants to build the relationship and communication is a major part of that.
2. Waits Too Long To Set Up The Next Date.
If you go out with a guy and he makes no indication of ever wanting to see you again, or he waits a few days to call, it means he’s on the fence about you and isn’t really feeling it. Why does he continue asking you out? If a guy is into you, he’ll make it known that he wants another date. He might mention other date ideas he has for the two of you.
3. He Gives You Excuses.
He’s busy, he’s stressed at work, he has a million things going on, blah blah blah. If he’s into you, it doesn’t matter how busy he is, he’ll take 30 of the 86,400 seconds in a day to reach out to you, even if it’s just to send a quick text. A guy pulling out the excuses early on is always a bad omen. There’s no stability or certainty in the beginning of a relationships.
4. You Can’t Tell If He’s Interested.
When a person likes you, it’s obvious, there are no secret codes or hidden clues to uncover. If you have a suspicion that he’s not feeling it, it’s probably because he isn’t. What women call “mixed messages” is actually one very clear message: he doesn’t want to be with you. He may want to hang out with you, he may want to hook up with you, but that is not the same as being with you.
5. He Doesn’t Ask You About Yourself.
If a guy shows no interest or excitement over finding out who you are, it’s not a good sign. When we like someone, we can’t get enough. We want to know every story, every detail. So basically the takeaway is if a guy shows no interest in your life, your hobbies, what you enjoy, etc, he’s really just not all that interested in you.
6. He Doesn’t Reveal Things About Himself.
On the other side of the coin, if a guy doesn’t tell you anything about himself, it also means he’s not really feeling it. When we share information about ourselves with someone, we are investing in them. We are inviting them into our world because we see the potential for them to become a part of it.
7. He Talks To You Like He Does With His Friends.
This is actually quite easy to spot. If he always talks to you in a casual tone of voice, similar to how he does with his friends, then he’s probably not into you. When a guy is interested, there’s always at least a slight variation in how he goes about speaking with you, a variation that proves he’s interested. He has a special way of talking to you, or extends some special kind of attention — something that he doesn’t do with anyone else.
8. He Has No Problem Telling You About The Girls He Likes
Yet another clear-cut sign that he’s not interested. Make sure you don’t confuse this with the occasional story about some girl, most guys do that from time to time, and it really isn’t a big deal. However, if you talk to a guy and he’s having no trouble telling you about all the girls he likes, the girls he’ll sleep with and any other fantasies of this nature, on a regular basis, you can take that as a clear sign that he’s not that into you.
9. Bad Body Language.
If he avoids eye contact, sits with his body away from you, doesn’t try to keep the conversation going, or generally maintains a distance from you, you can take all of these as signs that he’s not interested.
10. He Keeps His Feelings Hidden.
Although this issue is probably more prevalent in relationships, if you’re seeing a guy for quite some time and he has a hard time talking about his feelings, or seems to keep them all hidden, that’s a common sign he’s not interested. If a guy is into you, he’ll generally let you know about those feelings sooner or later.
