Well, it is considered a mandate that a boyfriend is the one who has to take a lead on things like date nights, taking your girl to places like Sky Lounge, weekends away in Kasane, buying of gifts and stuff. Granted, it is romantic and manly, but there is a thin line between, providing and being used. Consider the following points to check if she is in it for the money or not, the points can also work for girls who find themselves in similar situations.
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1. Understand What Constitutes A Gold Digger.
There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially.
2. Gold Diggers Want You To Pay Their Bills.
They know that you don’t want to see them get an eviction notice, or get their car repossessed, and you’re a good person who’s in a position to help. But there’s a difference between a gold digger and someone who’s just fallen on bad times.
3. When They Want Expensive Gifts.
When you give them something sentimental that doesn’t cost much but reminds you of a special time together, or you write them a heartfelt poem, they might give you a blank look or turn her nose up at the gift.
4. They Look For A Sense Of Entitlement.
Gold diggers feel that they deserve to be treated well, and that includes knowing that someone is willing to spend money on them. Maybe it’s because they had a bad childhood or relationship, and they feel they deserve to be happy.
5. Her Circle Of Friends Are Gold Diggers.
As the saying goes, you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep. If your girlfriend spends time with other women who seem to show signs of being gold diggers, or you’ve heard gossip about their behavior, chances are she could well be influenced by their tendencies. It’s a good idea to keep your hand on your wallet.
6. She Is Curious About Your Financial Status.
Your girlfriend has been interested in hearing about your career and financial status from day one. Though you might mistake her curiosity for interest in your life, she’s probably sussing you out to ensure you will be able to pay her way through the relationship.
7. She Never Pays.
When the bill arrives at the table, she pretends it doesn’t exist. It’s always up to you to settle it, and she never even offers to pay or go 50/50. Basically, a she takes for granted that you’re a gentleman, and when it comes to shelling out money, you’re the one for the job.
8. Hates Other Women.
Always dressed in the finest clothing and looking gorgeous, the gold digger flaunts the fact that she likes to take care of herself. But it’s with other people’s money, of course. Since she places emphasis on her looks, she is wary of and competitive with other women and dislikes their company if they are just as gorgeous or as status-endowed as she is. Clearly, her behavior is caught up in insecurity.
9. She Uses Her Looks For Short-Term Gain.
She has to get to the front of the line at clubs, so she pops open a button on her cleavage-exposing top. The gold digger uses her looks for short-term gain, and she probably charmed you that way too. But she doesn’t use her looks for long-term goals, simply because she doesn’t have any.
10. She Climbs Up Using Boyfriends.
Instead of climbing the corporate ladder, the gold digger straps on her skills to use boyfriends as stepping stones. In fact, looking back on her relationship history, you’re likely to find that each guy she’s dated has been richer than the last. You’re her promotion to a more fabulous, expensive life
